The Goal of Mindful Awareness: Enlightenment, Not Control
I had been previously trained in drama and movement therapy but the last few years I had been using more top down therapy programs which were mandated by the agency I worked in. Homo sapiens could never have metabolized the fossil fuels himself as all of his infrastructure and organization was made for eating biological tissues. But none of the species existing on earth could be the multi-tool necessary to increase the ERD that would allow an increase of complexity at an unprecedented rate — except humans. You must have a goal to replace the fear — and insist on it. Everything but you is at fault. The treatment for patients with cleft lip and palate has an interdisciplinary character.
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Soon the stove no longer triggers the violent reaction — and eventually you touch a hot burner again: You initiated a fear response and then through understanding and experience, you extinguished the fear response.
Very soon, in exactly this way, you will be free from fear. With practice you can overcome fear instantly in one step. Do you find yourself in situations that scare you and leave you feeling helpless? Once you see that fearful expectations attract the fearful experiences - it will be easy to choose "safe and secure. Fear is behind all loss, suffering, pain and illness. Fear is a self-fulfilling prophesy that is guaranteed to produce an experience that matches the intensity of your feelings of fear.
This is an "attraction based universe" and Karma - or Law of Attraction rules. If you doubt it - get the facts that free you. Most people fear public speaking, heights, insects especially spiders , snakes, and some animals. Insights into the origins of these fears can liberate you. More obscure are the abstract common fears of - pain, other people, death, god, commitment, social anxiety and the fear of failure. Where does all the fear come from?
Exactly the same source — genetic history - and the solution is not beyond your control. The genetic insights may surprise you. Once you see fear in context of history and genetics — a quick easy solution is self-evident. A personal ah HA! Fear is simple to overcome once you understand exactly what it is and what it does for you. What makes it tough? All habits of thought are difficult to change ONLY because they are habits.
Combine new scientific discoveries with ancient wisdom and the truth is self-evident. The answer and insight is outside of your normal mind-set. Much about fear is only a habit, but once active, it dominates reasoning — and confuses the simple facts. It's been centuries since you met a tiger head on. Because you believe that, you are experiencing it…. It seems true and the fearful results are real- a warning of horrible things to come! After all, you are feeling it and then experiencing it, right?
So if you have a program that says, 'I do not deserve', your brain will not let you generate behavior that contradicts this because it's nature says it has to be coherent.
Breaking out of social habit patterns and changing your genetic blueprint are only difficult because of fear. Fear is a self-fulfilling prophesy. That experience builds up a pattern of fearful responses habits that are difficult to overcome - yet it is possible - even after experiences in the most horrendous situations imaginable.
The responses are only chains of habits - and can and do change. Fear that is justified: Real War Zone danger. But it is no longer "real" once away from the battle field. Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome describes the stressful responses that continue long after the real danger is gone.
It is debilitating - yet it is possible to overcome fear. Gary W Halsey Sr. Here's an Inspiration and insight into overcoming fear. Being in combat for 3 tours in Vietnam, I know first hand about fear, then tried my best to defeat it, and much to my surprise, I was able to do so eventually.
I was only 18 when I went over there, so just being a youth, I wasn't geared for what I had to do, or see over there. Your article is great, and right on the point, and I enjoyed it immensely Life's Little Hiccups, bio and articles. Read Gary's tribute to soldiers "The River Rats" a poem with an insight into real wartime fear That experience is in most of your genetic heritage and the fears continue into life - until they are stopped.
It is uncomfortable to wake up and see how "unconscious" you've been. Freedom comes from seeing how you allowed fear to run rampant, and then attract fearful experiences into your life.
It is up to you: We're no longer interested in finding out the truth. The bamboozle has captured us. It is simply too painful to acknowledge even to ourselves that we've been so credulous. How to Overcome Fear is easy.
The explanation following is not a discussion of theory. It is biased to provide only a simple clear statement of abbreviated scientific facts.
Only the essential ideas that are necessary for you to understand where you are and how to overcome fear - are included. Once understood, then freedom from fear takes only one quick step.
Once you grasp the simplicity — a quick " Then changing the old habit through repetition over 21 days is easy. Knowledge is organic and grows as human understanding expands. Visit Wikipedia and the many resources on-line to add to your knowledge.
Read carefully to discern facts, and not simply to prove what you already believe is true. Tapping, EFT or the Emotional Freedom Technique One of the newest breakthroughs in releasing fear is the process of collapsing old "habit-patterns or trauma" stuck in the body energy system. Tapping accesses the subconscious with an acupuncture type of process using your body's energy meridians. Rather than needles, you "tap" and release the blockage.
Try EFT or Tapping - for quick relief to release fear and emotional stagnation. Because it works when nothing else does! Tapas Fleming developed the Tapas Acupressure Technique working with acupuncture to relieve the symptoms of allergies. She discovered it also released the emotional trauma behind the symptoms. TAT does not "tap" on the meridians, but holds one position then closes with a final position while gently clearing trauma and anxiety. TAT works quickly on the energy body- in a more universal approach for long-standing or broad issues.
It gently and thoroughly allows your body-mind-emotions to restore balance. There is no figuring out the details or delving into an emotional issue. Do the process takes about 5 to 10 minutes and then allow the integration to continue over the next 24 hours. You get results, asses your feelings and then repeat if necessary.
The manual explaining the process is free to download. Add TAT or the Tapping technique to releasing and overcoming fear and you'll find the lasting relief you seek. How does it work? Follow two Tales of Overcoming Fear. Both used the facts you are reading - and also used Tapping. Overcoming fear is a difficult task and few accomplish it because they don't realize fear can change through getting the facts and a change in attitude.
Fear and depression are deadly. Teen suicide is on the rise - the 2nd leading cause of death for those under The strongest survive and live to tell about it. Follow Mark's inspiring True Tale that describes a clear and simple path out of fear and into a life of Good Fortune. June Harder is a grandmother that survived a horrible life of abuse in every form over and over, and then accidents and surgeries. I held everything inside from the time I was very young and trusted no one. I'd shut down all feeling and to this day never really know what my true feelings are.
My life was saved by Lithium but that put me into more of a box with absolutely no feelings. Follow June's path and discover a solution that works. Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears. Synopsis of How to Overcome Fear Following is the detailed outline of exactly what fear is, what it does for and to you; and the one quick step that stops fear from dominating your life.
If you discover a food is poison and making you sick - you quit eating it - right? Overcoming fear is the same thing - exactly. Discover how fear is poisoning you and you'll be over it in a red hot minute. Quick, easy and simple. Understand fear and the results of continuing fear. Cost of continuing to indulge in fear. Changing a genetic blueprint. Limit and set the boundaries of your lifestyle. Genetic history and conditioned behavior. Genetic training from your recent AND distant past.
Changing your genetic blueprint from fear to creativity. Fear blocks security, self-worth and self-esteem. Media preferences point to old fears. Fear limits emotional expression and Life Style. The Emotional Scale — where is your Set-point? Fear is the mind killer.
What do you want in the place of fear? See the gap — now close it. How to overcome fear - one quick easy step: Extinguish fear — and replace with a fearless Vision. The gift of fear: Red light — stop it! How to Overcome Fear: Understand the full nature and results of allowing habitual fear to overrun your life.
Fear is a feeling of disquiet, apprehension, agitation or anxiety that escalates: Heart pounding, tightening in solar plexus, blood racing, sweaty palms, muscles tense, and an alert narrow focus. Fear produces corresponding emotional states including worry, anxiety, terror, fright, paranoia, horror, anger, revenge, panic, persecution complex, dread to immobilizing depression and often an inability to function.
Fear is the specific behaviors of escape and avoidance, which if continued, quickly becomes anxiety that perceives threats as uncontrollable or unavoidable. It centers in the primitive Limbic brain and renders you incompetent, unable to think clearly, paralyzed and may prevent action.
An athlete trains to maximize the hormones and adrenaline of physical competition. The passion for competing and the desire to excel motivates a winner. Fear does not help you fight. A fighter or warrior trains to develop skill and minimize fear. If the opponent can be made to fear, then the fight is already won. Fear does not help you flee. An athlete trains to run — preparing for the rush and excitement of competition — and repetition and skill develops a winner.
Fear immobilizes and leads to defeat. Training for competition mobilizes an athlete for effective action. Competition induces a similar physiological state to fear, such as adrenalin and heightened awareness.
It is not fear, but rather training and competition that prepares the body for peak performance. Training focuses attention, sharpens perception, stimulates adrenaline for extraordinary effort, and repetition develops effective action.
All illness and dis-ease is the result of fear or stress. The gift of fear is only as an early warning system. Angry or fearful others spread their fears to whomever will listen. Fear is an innate response of the sympathetic nervous responses.
Muscles used for physical movement are tightened and primed with oxygen, in preparation for a physical fight-or-flight response.
The heart-rate and heartbeat quicken. Perspiration secretes to cool the body after the heat from the rush of blood and tension. Once these hormones are released throughout the body, they begin to trigger defensive mechanisms such as raising adrenaline and cortisol levels, and increasing heart rate and respiration. This is the "fight-or-flight" response.
Fear symptoms in animals are meant to stay active for only a few seconds or minutes - long enough to react. Only humans use memory to continue and sustain the fear — sometimes indefinitely. A childhood or genetic fear can push the panic button - outside your awareness. Fear is a response to a trigger — often an idea created in your imagination fear of failing or as a response to a genetic fear pattern fear public speaking that signals a danger from many generations or centuries ago — but that is not happening - or true now.
High levels of adrenaline and increased cardio-respiratory rates, if continued for long periods, eventually exhausts the body. Stress is fear based - in anticipation of and in response to - prolonged physical states of hyperactivity. Fear of punishment or retaliation is used as a motivator to control others — do it or-else -- in families, and also in military training and in abusive relationships.
The brain through repetition learns specific fearful neural pathways, creating the habit of fight or flight - even when responding to non-threatening situations. Fear quickly escalates out of control. Anger is an attempt to regain control. Bursts of "anger" releases the horrible feeling of depression and most importantly releases the hormone build-up and other tensions from the fear.
Anger is a good thing as a step to resolve the fear. The Limbic system is ancient, involves the flight or fight responses, some sexual responses and long term memory — including pain and avoidance tactics. The fearful person is unable to access their rational mind and acts out of animal fear and instinct. Fear renders you helpless, stupid and a victim to circumstances that are now beyond your control.
There is no benefit to fear. When you feel secure, your inspiration guides you to secure experiences. That's the only real safety there is. Simple awareness does wonders to unravel fear. All human behavior is the result of past genetic programming. A genetic blueprint for living life controls until a conscious effort is made to change it.
Everyone is programmed to follow a leader and fall inline. There is some conditioning learning by parents and social training during childhood that influences the blueprint too.
Do you see that you all share the same genetic codes that are being taught and reinforced — and passed down through generations? If you look there you will find a simple quick solution. Why not do that? Your behavior is somewhat modified by experience — but your genetic blueprint rules subconscious mind especially in survival situations — until you actively change it. It is our ancient family genetic DNA patterns. A good example of instincts is seen in our pets.
Have you seen a kitten — only weeks old — respond to the world? Stalking a fly or hiding from danger? Fear is the glue that holds the habits and patterns in place. Once fearful, all thinking shuts down and focus is through the limbic brain — with no access to the reasoning mind. Genetics dominate behavior and span human evolution history. Genetic blueprints change easily through committing to new choices and repetition. You can train yourself to run, you can train yourself to be secure and fearless exactly the same way.
First, in a baby forming in the womb as a few cells, evolving into the tadpole swimming in a saltwater-ish solution, transforming through many forms and emerging human. You and your behavior are the result of all of life forming back to the beginning of time: There are no genetic limitations to your current experience: There are one million people as close to you as a tenth cousin, and no one is further removed from you than a 50th cousin.
Your genetic pool is huge - and anything you are attracted to - another culture, era in history, or people - is a matching "resonance" to who you are - with that time and place. In not understanding fear — and worse yet, attempting to make a convoluted and bazaar theory explain simple facts — you confuse and add to the fear. Keep it simple and follow the facts. The origin of fear: Our past is ancient, extending back many hundreds of thousands of years.
But let's compare our lot with folks in medieval Europe. Most land belonged to the nobility and the church. Peasants, who comprised the vast majority of the population, were forced to live off small strips of land, and a bad harvest or harsh taxes could leave thousands on the verge of starvation, with little hope. Bands of outlaws -- poachers, thieves, vagrants, murderers, rapists -- were common. Life was nasty, brutish, and short. Fear led to seeking safety in the tree.
None of it is true now. No tigers, no cliff dwelling, no inquisition to fear being singled out or fear public speaking, and no reason to react as if it were still a threat.
The fear of falling is a commonly understood inborn instinctual fear. That fear of heights evolved from our prehistory where falls resulted in death or maiming. The fear of heights is an instinct found in many mammals, including domestic animals and human beings infants too.
Genetic instinct is the only rational explanation for a baby and animals to fear falling. Pavlov experimented with modifying biological responses. Pavlov rang a bell when he fed the dogs. After a short time, ringing the bell would trigger the dogs to salivate and their bodies would respond as if they were going to eat. This stimulus can be simply thinking about a situation that triggers a genetic fear.
Once the fear is activated, it can be deactivated quickly — and a simple observation of the situation and reflecting on your self-talk will reveal the action to take. If you fear public speaking, how you think has a profound affect on your physiology and biology. Your subconscious or genetic code has stored many memories of people speaking out and suffering for it.
Public entertainment was torture and beheading. The fear is really a fear of others and authority. Do you see how knowing that can dramatically shift what you tell yourself? Your feelings follow your thoughts. Tell yourself the truth Extinguish the fear, just as you learned to not fear a hot stove.
Old subconsciously recalled sources of fear and pain are ancient - and of no benefit to you now. F alse E vidence A ppearing R eal —. Yet you live with fear every day — usually without realizing it. How often do you really face danger? When was the last time you fell off a cliff, or got caught in a tidal wave? That you were personally in physical danger? You will shortly be able to stop doing that.
You have a genetic pattern that says you are threatened. You are looking for it, and you attract it in. You find support in the news, from others, media and stories. It becomes real for you. Fear is then Attracted to you because 1st you read and hear it and confirm your fear; -and 2nd you give it your Attention and fear it — and then 3rd you draw it in and experience it.
If you are still not certain of your own Focus and Attracting power, visit Law of Attraction. This knowledge is your power to change. Depression and despair are suffocating. Where are you in this process? Do you feel anger that just surfaces, out of control? Or Depression and you retreat? Or anxious and frustrated? If you are attracting things to fear — you can stop doing it. Everything you experience is always a match to your vibration.
You choose your Focus and vibration. For most, physical violence is not an immediate threat. But the fear is. According to the media this is an "Age of Fear. The appearance of rapid change and fear unsettles the old social conditioning habits.
Most seek stability in conformity. Once convinced that the only certainty is that the future is unpredictable — then fear seems real and justified.
Neuro scientists have revealed that the conscious mind only operates at best about five percent of the day. Ninety five percent or more of the time for most people ninety nine percent we run our lives from the automatic processor, the subconscious mind. When frightened you retreat and solutions are not available to you. Neither is thinking clearly or mindfulness.
An example is easily seen when a new scientific report reveals facts and conclusions about — say pesticides or food or climate change. Give the report to a Republican and a Democrat — and each will sift through the data and find only the facts that support what each already believes. Each side ignores the facts and proof of new evidence — neither can hear information outside of the current opinion of "my tribe. Prison and debtor's prison were real threats and few escaped or returned. Your genetic code is attempting to survive - to avoid pain and suffering now…your body does not want to go there — and shutting your mind down - ignoring facts and information - is a small price to pay to avoid torture.
Mind blindness is not a new phenomenon. Sailors knew the earth was round — Science and the world declared it was flat. Scientists knew the earth revolved around the sun — and were tortured for hearsay — the Church insisted the earth was the center, and most agreed.
Pain, suffering and death is a motivator — and is limiting you in the same way today. Fear as a motivator and sales strategy. The fear something can harm you is common and resonates with almost everyone. The News feeds this fear with an endless stream of aggressors and victims; and Hollywood movies add to the confusion - the victims are always innocent and are the target of violence — for no reason at all.
You are a victim. And people love it because fear is so familiar, and being a victim justifies not taking action. You can choose to be the cause of your experience. The feeling is tension and defending yourself — as if your life depended on it. It may have in the past - but not today. The many faces of fear — afraid of pain, scared of death or of god, fear of loss, fear of poverty, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of commitment, fear of animals and insects, fear of heights and - the fear of everything!
Fear is an instinct that limits your experience. Once outside of familiar "my tribe" territory - fear dominates - and seldom is justified. Fear limits your ability to live life to its fullest and it also attracts other forms of fear. Very soon your life is more about coping with stress and endless worries than creating a future for yourself.
You are not thriving — but merely surviving. Fear locks your mind into your genetic blueprint. Almost everyone does some of it. Very few realize that what they think and feel — and give their Attention to — is attracted to them. Fear limits your Focus to the primitive mind, and your reasoning mind is unavailable to you. Fearful thoughts result in fearful feelings. You may want to swim and know the water is safe- yet feel anxious - is the "little kid" part of you afraid of crocodiles or drowning?
If a part of you feels fearful, it won't be fun. You also can't learn to swim. Not able to learn "how" - is how fear makes itself "true. The cause of your fears about what you want may be subconscious or outside of your awareness. Fear is the natural process of genetic patterning and social programming to keep the tribe safe in a jungle of wild animals.
It began with human evolution and continues today. It is the developing "reasoning" mind that looks for answers - reasons for the responses That habit continues the fear.
If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained. The good news is, with the breakthroughs in Physics and Sciences, you can understand and use the natural process of creating habits and patterns of thought.
You can extinguish old behavior and replace it. You can create triggers and teach yourself to respond to "now," and what you want now not fears in the distant past. Begin by understanding that fear in the subconscious is blocking what you want NOW.
How do you know? Fears are not about now, nor for the reason you think. The fear is genetic instinct and not justified - but dominates how you feel and how you react to life. Once you understand an old fear, you never return unconsciously. Fear intimidates you, causing you to go along with another's wishes without resisting. Fear excuses violent acts from the death penalty in most instances.
Panic spreads quickly in a crowd and soon the entire group acts irrationally. A sudden fear dominates and replaces thinking. Animals as well as groups of people can be affected. Panics typically occur in riot or disaster situations — and results in the death of the young and old or infirm. Fear does not solve the problems it creates.
Fear immobilizes and makes the situation far more dangerous than if you think clearly. Most can easily walk a 20 foot length. Now raise the beam 2 feet and few can tolerate even standing on it, let alone keep their balance and walk for 20 feet. The fear of heights, animals or insects causes irrational behavior in many resulting in far worse injuries in fleeing, falling and striking out, than the situation warrants.
Your genetic history easily explains your "irrational" fears now. Spiders and insects - along with many animals were once a danger - and took many lives - some in your genetic memory. If you choose to "overcome" the fear and change the auto-response - it will free you up in other areas of your life too.
It's easy to change a habit. Do it a few times and you learn for yourself how easy it is That's a good thing! Trial and error is the very process of living. For those afraid of blame or ridicule past or present reluctance to try new ideas dominates their behavior and they retreat. The fear may block reasoning — so solutions are not available, and the trials they experience are all failures, governed by the fear of failure.
The fear of failure is one of the strongest genetic conditions holding people below their potential. Historically, failure at the hunt, in battle, or fleeing an enemy meant death — and the fear may not be justified now, but continues to dominate behavior. Fear digs a pit that traps and limits. Forget "coping with fear. Could this be the re-enactment of a genetic past trauma? The fear of everything is initiated by the unconscious mind from your genetic history as a protective mechanism.
At many times in your historic past, there were traumatic, life-threatening events. Many generations spent in slavery, in prisons, sickness or on difficult migrations made everything dangerous — and are possibilities as well. Only you know what feels fearful - so only you can stop it.
Begin with changing habits, eliminating the little fears The real cost to your health, career, and to your personal life is the difference between living the life you want and living limitataions as you are now. You cannot get to what you want until the fear is stopped. Wealth and success are social concepts achieved with others. Without cooperation and support great achievements are limited too - Fear excludes opportunities with others, and thus makes itself real.
The financial cost of all fears and phobia is incalculable. Living with fear means you can never achieve your Dreams. You are unable to find solutions and opportunities. Your relations with others are limited and real success eludes your best efforts. Fear costs you at least hundreds of thousands of dollars over the course of your lifetime, in lost opportunities and promotions.
Fear and anxiety dominate the media and society. It is recommended to set a timer for 10 to 15 minutes for this exercise. Name calling, blaming and criticism are extremely damaging to a marriage. In this exercise, partners are asked to focus on attacking the other partner's behavior rather than the person by avoiding statements that start with "you. Partners often become so used to making sacrifices in a marriage that they forget to express their wants and needs.
In this exercise, partners can share their expectations and desires regarding the relationship. Each person is asked to fold a paper in four and label each square with the following categories: They will then fill out each square with four to five needs or wants that they have in each of the four categories.
After they have finished, partners exchange their papers and have a discussion about these needs. Video of the Day.
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